The Beginning of Hawaiian Life

Moving to Hawaii in 2006 was a very difficult decision for me. Everything I knew was in California. My friends. My family. I had just graduated college, so I wanted to start a life for myself. I wanted to find out who I really was without my parents.

I believe that a person should not live in fear or regret. I was given an opportunity of a lifetime to live in Hawaii. It's next to impossible for Mainlanders to move to Hawaii before retirement. People don't move to Hawaii because jobs pay next to nothing and the cost of living is extremely high.

I had to take the chance, and it's been very lonely. I left all my family and friends. I didn't know anyone who lived here. I also grew up in a large family, so there was always someone to hang around or talk to.

I am very grateful that my now fiance, then boyfriend, moved with me. He sacrificed as much as I did. He sold his car. He left his job. He left his mom. He moved away from all the activities and friends that made him happy, just to be with me.


I don't regret moving to Hawaii. Yes, life has been hard but I have made a life here. I found myself and who I am. I enjoy the people of this island and their calm energy. I would just like my California friends and family to realize what I've gone through and how I have changed.

I do miss everyone in California, but I don't want the relationship to be one sided. In the past three years, I have traveled to California six times. I try to visit as often as possible, but I want people to have to desire to visit me as well. Why do I always have to come to California to see anyone? Why can't they come and see me? I have free accommodations available.

Everyone needs to understand that my life is not in California anymore. Yes, it is a part of me and where I grew up, but it is not my future. I love California and it's energy, but I made a home in Hawaii. I'm ready to start a family. I just wish that my friends and family could open their eyes and see me now.

I want people to be happy and supportive of my choices. I don't want to hear, "So, when are you moving back?" all the time. In my mind, I asked "So, why haven't you come to visit me?"

Contrary to what some people think, I do not make a lot of money in Hawaii. I have been in the same job position for the past three years, and Noah teaches elementary school. Life is hard, but we are living life together one step at a time.

"Everything will be okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end." - Unknown